Recently, I read one of Erma Bombeck’s books because I wanted to read something funny. Erma Bombeck makes me laugh until tears spill down my cheeks and my side aches. That’s the kind of laughter I wanted. She delivered. I felt better. Laughter is good medicine for the soul.
Yet interspersed in the funny columns lurked some that make a reader think. One column struck me with a powerful truth. She wondered how many women declined dessert that fateful night of the sinking of the Titanic. Erma Bombeck’s advice to seize the moment stuck.
Since then I remember the women on the Titanic when I go out to eat or am offered a dessert. Will I enjoy it or will I think I better not because I have to watch my figure. Sometimes I just get sick of having to consider calories and weight. Bah. If you’re on vacation, aren’t you supposed to be enjoying yourself? At Thanksgiving, aren’t you supposed to give thanks and enjoy the bounty? Does every woman have to go through life cursed with thoughts of “a cookie in hand means flab on the can”?
Say yes to now
Since that article, I also pause when my husband or I say, “Not now.” Sometimes when we snap “not now,” we never come back to it. Do you want to play cards? Not now. Want to ride bikes to Tastee Crème and get cones? Not now. Will you look at my paper/project? Not now. Let’s build sand castles and stomp in mud puddles! Not now. Let’s go out. Not now. Let’s replace this or fix that. Not now.
We always figure on getting to it later. There will be time.
Except sometimes a second opportunity never comes. Kids grow up. People move. People die. Some just give up and stop asking.
So, assess your priorities. Decide to splurge once in a while. Fly that kite. Bake the cookies and eat them too. Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks is important, and do what YOU think is important. Spend your time on what’s really important with the people who are irreplaceable.
We never get this moment again.
Remember the Titanic.
Do you implement Erma Bombeck’s advice to seize the moment? How?